Friday, September 25, 2009

How To Lose Friends & Alienate People

How far would you go for your friends?

I know people who would entrust their lives to their friends but not to their families.

On the other hand, there are some who treat their friends like shit.

In my three decades of existence, I have seen the best and the worst in people. Everyone knows happened to those characters in The Beach, right?

In a dog eat dog world, having friends help cushion the blows.

Humanity is such a complex subject. It would probably take an eternity to have it fully figured out.

Meeting new acquaintances is fairly easy. Maintaining relationships is the problem.

43 comments:

charis faith said...

Rafter, maintaining relationships is where women are best at. Your a man.You have a different priorities.

charis faith said...

correction: you're a man and you have different priorities, etc.

Judayski said...

ohhh, why the drama? hehehe.

i agree with you on the hardwork that has to be put to maintain a relationship. eh minsan, gently, softly, we can sort the dispensable from the ones worth keeping.

Raft3r said...

charis faith, Welcome to The Deadbeat Club.

judayski, Drama? Para may variety! Hehe. Saka kelangan may 10 posts per month. Yun ang quota, eh. Hehe

Andy said...

I have very few friends. Mabibilang lang siguro sa isang kamay. Maarte lang siguro talaga ako. That, or mahirap talaga maghanap ng taong mapagkakatiwalaan. Wow, deep. :P

RaYe said...

madaling makipagkaibigan - simpleng hi/hello.. chika, etc. pwede na kayo magclick e..

mahirap maging kaibigan - di lahat ng ka-click natin, are willing to listen and stay with us through thick and thin.. :(

Wendy said...

I've said goodbye to some friendships - the toxic ones that weren't good for my sanity. No regrets naman. Ganun talaga buhay. Break kung break. Ay ang sama ko.

Liz said...

Totoo yan, madaling makipagkaibigan pero mahirap maging kaibigan, para bang ang daling maging tao pero ang hirap magpakatao.

I have a lot of friends pero iilan lang ang true friends.

Raft3r said...

andy, Kaya nandyan ang Facebook. Sali na! Nyahaha

raYe, Malaki talaga ang pagkakaibia ng acquaintance sa kaibigan ano?

wendy, Tama yan. Break kung break. Nyahaha

liz, Maswerte na tayo kung may 2 o 3 tayong tunay na kaibigan.

gillboard said...

Madali maghanap ng mga kaibigan, but it's hard to make one last. that maybe the reason why people see me as suplado, cuz if i get won over talagang loyal ako.

btw, thank god di kami apektado ng bagyo :)

Raft3r said...

gillboard, Nyahaha. Sira ka. Natawa ako sa blog mo. Kawawa si Figaro. Hehe

Random Student said...

Sa experience ko, Raft3r, habang natanda (asusus!) tayo, 2 lang ang nangyayari regarding friendships: it only gets better or the more distant you become to each other. If we continue to build memorable experiences with our friends, friendship is nurtured. If memorable na 'di maganda, that will keep friends apart or it may render depth to it. Mayr'on din namang pa-less and less na ang communication which leads to a natural death.

Raft3r said...

random student, Kaya kelangan talaga ng effort. Tama ba?

Random Student said...

Yeah effort is needed in a sense na it can be effortless by following a simple guideline like using special occasions. Kung single ito, automatic na i-monitor ang birthday. If taken, watch out for their anniversary. If may kids na, humanda sa party ng makulet na chikiting. The rest of the year tahimik pero at least once naging relevant ka.

prinsesamusang said...

i think the problem is with sustaining that feeling that we want to maintain the relationship LOL i am not good at maintaining anything i do not feel strongly about.

btw, i am very dry. ang taas ng mountains ko dito sa central luzon LOL. ikaw ang dapat kong tanungin! how are you? natelevise ka ba? LOL

Raft3r said...

random student, Nyahaha. Itong ito ang blog post mo, ah! Hehe

prinsesamusang, Oo. Ako yun lumalangoy sa Roxas Boulevard! Hehe

wait said...

good communications skills are an important part of any type of relationship

Beth said...

The last statement is so true! Pero I believe that not all the friendships we made before are true, kaya nga some of them didnt last di ba? KYa it's good to make new ones pa din, malay mo, meron mga true friends in the making khit sa blog un or not! :)

Binaha nga pala kmi! Sobra nga ireng weekend na nagdaan! :)

Raft3r said...

wait, Kelangan ba magaling sa Ingles gaya mo? Hehe

beth, Naku. Kami din. Maputik sa bahay. Pati mga sasakyan namin binaha!

pete said...

Buti na lang.
Nandyan si manager.
Hehehe

Raft3r said...

pete, Tumpak! Nyahaha

len said...

Yeah,it's difficult maintaining relationships but when invested with the right kind of friends you really wouldn't mind the effort you put into it.

Parang trial and error din; you keep on trying until you find friends worth keeping in your life. :p

Raft3r said...

len, Feeling ko worth maintining yun sayo. Naks!

pete said...

ipakita mo ito ke manager! hehe

Raft3r said...

pete, Nyahaha. Makakarating. Hehe

pete said...

para sagana tayo sa pasko!

Raft3r said...

pete, Nyahaha! Pwede! Pwede! Hehe

pete said...

ano sabi nya

Raft3r said...

pete, Hindi pa. Hehe. Sana patulan!

pete said...

matutuwa yon
sigurado
hehehe

Raft3r said...

pete, Online si mokong ngayon sa Facebook. I told him about the post. Tumawa lang. Nyahaha

Jerick (the former Curbside Puppet) said...

Great Friends really help cushion your life's blows. Naawa nga ako sa bestfriend ko, na-stranded sa eastwood nung kasagsagan ng bagyo. two nights siya natulog dun. buti may unit na matutuluyan (administrator kasi ng isang condo dun).

Raft3r said...

jerick, Mayaman! Hehe

eden said...

I have many friends but i have a few really good and close friends.

Raft3r said...

eden, I get what you mean. =)

hitokirihoshi_kawii said...

hmmm..
"In my TWO decades of existence, I have seen the best and the worst in people. Everyone knows happened to those characters in DAWSON'S CREEK, right?"

ok seryoso na- may time na iniisip ko na ano bang klase akong kaibigan. parang ibinigay ko naman yung kaya kong ibigay pero wala. yung tipong kung kailan mo sila kailangan, absent. at kapag may kailangan sa iyo, present.

pero ganoon e, pwede kasing yung ALAM kong KAYA KONG IBIGAY ay kulang, di tama at mukhang di totoo para sa kanila. sa bandang huli,wala rin naman ako magagawa kung ano ang magiging interpretasyon nila.

marami akong tinuturing na friends na iba-iba ang level parang pyramid. yung nasa itaas yun ang tini-treasure ko talaga.

Raft3r said...

hitokirihoshi_kawaii, Ang lupit ng analogy mo! Idol!

hitokirihoshi_kawii said...

mei ganun, totoo ba 'yan?

oh di mo lang pinansin yong ni-quote ko? hehehe peace!

ok din naman yung churva mo na
"Humanity is such a complex subject. It would probably take an eternity to have it fully figured out."

Raft3r said...

hitokirihoshi_kawaii, Ang hirap i-spell ng pangalan mo ha!

hitokirihoshi_kawii said...

patas lang yan... mahirap ka ring sundan eh. hahahah

sumasakit na ata kamay ko kaka-type at kaka-mouse.... aru!

Raft3r said...

hitokirihoshi_kawaii, Gawin natin to araw-araw ha!

hitokirihoshi_kawii said...

aray ko! araw-arawin ba?!

di ko ma-imagine...wahhhh

Raft3r said...

hitokirihoshi_kawaii, Try lang natin. Sige na. Hehe